It's easy to say "Hi, Mom" or "Dad, can you pass the potatoes?
And bottling up your feelings can make you feel stressed.
Talking things over with a parent can help you feel less stressed. Look for a day and time when you both have the time.
Together, you can think of ways to cope, solve the problem, and feel better. Some people live with grandparents, so this works with grandparents, too. It's OK if you don't want sisters, brothers, or anyone else there for this talk. Before school, in the morning rush, might not be the right time.
Just knowing your parent understands and cares about what you're going through can reduce your stress a lot. But on the way home from sports practice could be a perfect time. Just like the decision about when, you'll want to pick the right place.
Even though you're older now, it's still perfectly OK to confide in your parents. But remember, your parents know you pretty well — and they were your age once, too! As you explain your problem, your mom might look sad or your dad might look worried. Your mom or dad can handle knowing about your problem, big or small.
That look on their face just means they care, and that they feel for you.
That's what families do — we feel for the people we love. Sometimes, kids don't bring up a problem because they just don't want to think about it — and hope it will just go away.
On a brighter note, it also means that your parents get to feel happy and celebrate when you are happy. But sweeping a problem under the rug hardly ever solves it.
To get away from the hustle and bustle of the house, you could go for a walk.
Or you might find that traveling in the car together is the right time. You might be mad, but I want to fix things, and I need your help. " Here's the good news: You don't have to plan out the whole conversation. Your mom or dad will start talking and then you can have more of a back-and-forth discussion about it.
Lots of good talks have happened on long (and even short) drives. Speaking of back and forth, you may have heard that communication is a two-way street.